Mental Health Internet “Experts” Part 4

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 3-20-2023

It’s been a while, but I have collected another bundle of “bad internet advice” quotes to debunk. The social media world is a never ending cesspool of poorly written advice!

In many cases, when people vent about their emotions or mental health symptoms, they aren’t making excuses. They are sharing. Mental traumas, grievances, illnesses aren’t “excuses”, they are reasons. Mental and medical conditions can cause life long limitations we must pay attention to. If neglected, we are extra prone to burnout, or a mental breakdown.
I truly wish this was the case. But think about the many people that have suffered due to a society full of homophobia, and/ or communities plagued with racism… and/ or sexism. Some people feel the need to go into hiding to survive this type of hatred. Be you, will the world adjust fully? Not necessarily. You may have to suffer through ignorance and prejudice.
Certainly, perception and thoughts do play a part. But there are most definitely people that are capable of hurting us. Imagine I fed this quote to someone in a situation of domestic violence? “Just don’t feel harmed”… meanwhile their spouse is beating on them. Don’t feed people delusions and fake neutrality/ positivity.
This picture and caption is implying that because this celebrity (or others in general) lost weight, he is “problem less”. Looks don’t tell the whole story. And I have yet to work with a single patient that was cured simply because of a diet, a habit change or removing someone from their life. The healing process is a journey, not a band aid.
This is faulty in that there is no one size fits all cure. And there are many medical and mental ailments that would get exacerbated by fasting: diabetes/ bulimia/ anorexia/ heart disease/ abnormal blood pressure/ postpartum stressors(especially while breast feeding)
1- let’s not pretend we know something we cannot understand. If you have not completed suicide, you don’t know why other people have. 2- “life is too much or you don’t understand it?” That’s quite the oversimplification of such a complex issue. I have researched findings leading up to suicide completions, and worked with many clients that have struggled with suicidal thoughts. They are strong people dealing with a multitude of complex biopsychosocial factors.
It sounds like Shakespeare likes to use the defense mechanism of comparison to keep himself more “positive”. But I can state with confidence that there are people in this world that will have it better, and there will be people who have it worse. And it has very little to do with how someone may feel in the moment when they are personally dealing with tragedy. All emotions are valid. All humans are capable of hurting and feeling a wide array of emotions. Comparing doesn’t cure mental illness.

Published by functionallymentall

Social Worker, Writer, USAF Veteran

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