Remember… “You signed up for this”

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 5-26-2023 “How many people can say that they know the look in a person’s eyes who is already dead? Mind made up. Ready to go to heaven. Ready to end it all, and then he did. I will never not blame myself.” -EaE Everyone asks me why I wrote my firstContinue reading “Remember… “You signed up for this””

Mommy Dearest

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 5-15-2023 We take for granted the things we have always had, that we never had to lose. In this case, it does not feel like a privilege, but a ‘right.’ But, it’s never a right. We are entitled to nothing. I have a recollection of puzzle pieced memories as a toddler.Continue reading “Mommy Dearest”

Work Work work work work

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 4-29-2023 It recently occurred to me that I have not yet written a blog specifically on the topic of how our stressful work lives/ environments factor into our deteriorating mental health. This is an important topic! As we often spend 40+ hours at our job’s week after week, month after month,Continue reading “Work Work work work work”

Learning the Art of Love

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 3-28-2023 ‘Unconditional love is for kids. Grownups need conditions. If you surrender all your love without conditions, it means you don’t have love for yourself.’ -EaE ‘He felt like my favorite coffee right next to a warm fireplace that never went out. If that makes any sense at all…. just pureContinue reading “Learning the Art of Love”

The Favor Bank

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 3-10-2022 “You’re welcome, for all the shit I did for you that you forgot to say thank you for.” -EaE If there’s one emotion that caught me off guard and left me feeling very uncomfortable and unsettled, I would have to say it was my rage. Because by my early thirtiesContinue reading “The Favor Bank”

No More White Picket Fence

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 2-28-2022 You feed a bunch of people a fantasy, you create a herd of people chasing a ‘dream’ that leads to disappointment. If you feed everyone the same fantasy, you neglect the concepts of diversity and individuality. Then you push the masses through the same customs and teachings; you will createContinue reading “No More White Picket Fence”

The Double Edged Sword

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 2-13-2023 There are issues that come up in a persons life that have no good, easy or perfect answers. In some cases, we get to a fork in the road where we have two or more crappy options, and we have to try to sort out the question of: “which optionContinue reading “The Double Edged Sword”

Shedding

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 2-6-2023 “Stop holding on to what is not for you. Get out of the quicksand. Swim toward the surface. Shake off the poison. Push away the evil. Make a barrier between you and all else; create secret passwords for access. Move forward. Be brave. Accept the new.” -EaE What do weContinue reading “Shedding”

Surviving a Narcissist

Elisa A. Escalante/ LCSW/ 1-30-2023 (2 Years ago in Brooklyn, NY)- I was standing on the roof of a 6 story building, the one where I shared an apartment with my ex fiance, literally my ex, the sting of our broken engagement was still fresh. I looked down as I contemplated jumping. It took meContinue reading “Surviving a Narcissist”